At the end of last month, I turned 29. Right before, I began a period of self reflection where I mentally mapped what I felt was lacking and viable paths to help me absolve these problem areas. Spoiler alert, there are a lot and I regularly oscillate between feeling defeated by shortcomings and being hopeful that I am able to transcend beyond them. So much so that I made a mantra/affirmation that stands to be my lifesaver in the choppy waters of my feelings. I regularly have to say this, and I welcome you to borrow it if you need it too.
As my friends and I near the ages of 29 and 30, I noticed some common themes in our retrospections and worries. First, this aging thing snuck up on us fast. Weren’t we just graduating college and worrying about getting jobs in a horrible recession? And now, with each day I near the departing of my twenties and I wonder what have I learned in this fleeting time. Which brings me to the second big theme. We’re searching for one more meaningful achievement to deem our 20s successful. For one friend, she was considering entering a fitness competition. Another was trying to reach a savings goal. And of course, we’ve all heard the people that want to lose X amount of pounds before they enter 30. I myself have even said that I would like to lose 30 before 30. We have seen successes such as graduating from college (twice from me), moving out on our own, getting our first jobs, making career moves. But as the end nears, we just want to set and reach just one more sizable goal in order to feel confident as a fledgling adult. This is a complete sidebar, but it’s kind of like when your Sims kid is nearing a birthday, so you have to make sure all their meters are full so they can advance into the next age with the best potential. Finally, we see the rest of the world hitting mainstream adulting goals and wonder when our time will come. We’re at that age. Our friends are getting married, having babies, buying homes, moving for jobs and the monster called comparison is live and well under our beds.